A Review of a Recent PWH Webinar - By Enid Oquendo, Seneca Medical
How to be a great leader without compromising your health, wellness and joy, presented by Dr. Suzie Carmack.
What does well-being mean to you?
Think about it, write it down, reflect on it…
Do any of these sound like you?
I take work home frequently.
I can ask for help but only if the situation is serious.
In relationships, it is easier for me to “give” than to “receive.”
It is important to put people at ease.
I often feel “used up” at the end of the day.
When I say “no,” I feel guilty.
I am uncomfortable when others do not see me as being strong and self-sufficient.
Work dominates much of my life.
When does doing good for others, stop being good for you?
· How do we balance our own well-being with the well-being of our team?
· When does our drive to perform well as a leader become a health risk- - or even a disparity?
· Can taking care of our well-being become an issue of safety and concern- for our own well-being and our organization?
It’s time to think about our well-being. Let’s put it into perspective…
Well-Being Summary- WB is conceptualized differently by each individual, making it hard to define and evaluate. There is tension between what is good for us (longevity) and what feels good (quality of life). Subjective (self) and Objective (other) evaluation of well-being matters.
Compassion Fatigue 101: We have all been here before and may still be here….not knowing that Caring too much can hurt. When caregivers focus on others without practicing self-care, destructive behaviors can surface. Apathy, isolation, bottled up emotions and substance abuse head a long list of symptoms associated with the secondary traumatic stress disorder now labeled: Compassion Fatigue.
How does this happen?
We humans are happy when we help others.
(Social support = Well-being)
You are happy when you fulfill your meaning and purpose in your work as a healer.
(Meaning and Purpose = Well-being)
Positive reinforcement from the world (which values high performance at all costs)
= Super-charged Outflow
OUTFLOW MUST BE BALANCED WITH INFLOW-UNLESS YOU ARE A SUPER-HERO…
Dr. Carmack’s Ultimatum - the 3 S’s:
Self-Care Daily, Social Support Weekly, Services Monthly
Self-Care Daily- means to mobilize and move, eat well, sleep, digital detox, mindfulness (Gratitude), non-work endeavors. Social Support Weekly: spend time with friends and family, buddy system, peer support. Services Monthly: work on your relationships, mind and body, legal, financial, medical, career…
Let’s Get Started! YOUR WELL-BEING ULTIMATUM
Create a Step 1 through 10 Step-process- This is your New Business Plan- Write the following steps down, be the author of your life-
Step 1- Vision Statement for your life and well-being.
Step 2- Mission Statement
Step 3- SWOT Analysis
Step 4- OWB-SWAT Analysis
Step 5- SWB Stakeholder Analysis
Step 6- Annual Goals
Step 7- Monthly Goals
Step 8- Weekly Practices
Step 9- Daily Practices
Step 10- The Well-Being Ultimatum Contract.
Now… let’s get to work!
Reflection- Dr. Carmack’s webinar opens the door to what I often call for a “soul searching” activity. I knew I had some difficulties balancing my well-being, but I didn’t know how deep I was into the hole. So, I started to work on my 10- Steps Ultimatum Plan, created a plan to get the balance right, to get centered. That includes posting the plan in my kitchen to remind myself every day that I have a plan now. Factor in all that is important in my life to continue moving towards my career goal. My biggest learning was the importance on working through all that has an impact to help reach my highest potential. Without having a healthy well-being life, I would only be getting deeper into the hole. Just a matter of time! So, let’s climb up, design the plan, and let’s get to work!
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